Grief is Not Weakness

“It is hard to have patience with people who say, ‘There is no death’ or ‘Death doesn’t matter.’ There is death. And whatever is matters. And whatever happens has consequences, and it and they are irrevocable and irreversible.”
– C. S. Lewis –

Please note: Generally I spend days or weeks writing a post; carefully considering the tone, structure, and language. This post does not have that kind of curation. It is more raw and honest. I may return later to tidy it up, and add photos, but it was important for me to share more straightforward thoughts this time. 

Dedicated with love to my Grandpa Theodore “Ted” Adamyk: Aug 16, 1925 – Feb 21, 2026


Grief is a tricky thing. Culturally it is something that we don’t know quite how to handle. This has not always been the case; for most of recorded human history there have been complex and nuanced rituals around times of grieving. Our forebears seemed to understand something that our modern world has largely forgotten: grief matters, takes time to process, and should be honored. In the present, grief feels like more of an inconvenience for the griever and those around them. “Try and carry on as normally as possible” is often the message, even if unspoken.

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Life After Facing Fear

Scared is what you’re feeling. Brave is what you’re doing.

Emma Donoghue

Fear, Then and Now

It was almost seven years ago to the day that I published my first blog article: “Reclaiming a Life from Fear.” While my writing hasn’t stayed regular, the quiet growth behind the scenes has.

I’ll be honest: Most of the last seven years hasn’t felt like triumph. My fears seemed as strong as ever. But what I couldn’t feel in the moment, I can now see in retrospect. I was taking steps, small and important ones, to break the power of fear in my life.

At last, after 6 years of painful and quiet growth, the last 12 months have seen many of my old fears start to crumble. I’ve begun to face them more directly.

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The Weight of a Life

Have you ever stopped and thought about the incredible number of sensations and experiences you have, even in a single day? Our brains filter out the majority of the information we take in each day, because most of it is unimportant and would only overwhelm us. But even those sensations and thoughts we ARE conscious of in a given moment are rarely committed to memory.  At the end of each day, you can probably recall most major events of the day. Those with better memory might be able to recall many of their feelings and thoughts, and notable sensations (feeling comfortable, cold, in pain, et cetera)… but there are still innumerable experiences that are never recalled.

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